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The Questions Many Couples Quietly Avoid
Jenny & Elroy ‘Spoonface’ Powell
'It's Not Me, It's You!' - Podcast
Sometimes it isn’t the big arguments that damage relationships.
It’s the conversations that never happen.
The questions people think about…
but never quite find the right moment to ask.
Questions like:
• Are you actually happy with me… or have we just become comfortable together?
• If our relationship stayed exactly the same for the next ten years… would we still choose it?
• What do you truly want from this relationship?
• Do we actually see the same future together?
• Is there something you’ve been afraid to tell me?
Most couples don’t avoid these questions because they don’t care.
They avoid them because they’re afraid of what the answers might reveal.
But avoiding the conversation doesn’t protect the relationship.
Often, it slowly creates distance.
This guide exists to make those conversations easier to start.
Not with pressure.
Not with confrontation.
Just with the right questions for you.
Download • Read • Breathe • TALK
Most relationships don’t break because of one big moment.
They slowly drift apart because important conversations never happen.
Questions about:
• expectations
• emotional needs
• boundaries
• attraction
• the future
Over time assumptions can quietly turn into:
• misunderstandings
• emotional distance
• resentment
• repeated arguments
• feeling unseen or unheard
This guide simply creates a space to ask the questions that matter.
Who is this for?
This special download is for couples who:
✔ want to understand each other more deeply
✔ feel like certain things are left unsaid
✔ want better conversations instead of repeating the same arguments
✔ are curious about their partner’s inner world
It’s also powerful for people who are:
✔ dating
✔ newly in a relationship
✔ reflecting on past relationships
Who This Is NOT For
❌ people looking for quick relationship “fixes”
❌ those unwilling to have honest conversations
❌ anyone expecting therapy or counselling
This book is simply a conversation tool.
What You’ll Discover Inside
✔ 50 thoughtful questions designed to spark deeper conversations
✔ prompts that help couples explore expectations, trust and emotional needs
✔ ideas inspired by relationship psychology including attachment theory and communication research
✔ a simple process you can explore together during a walk, over dinner or on a date night
✔ Several formats to suit your needs - printable cards, e-book and tablet slides.
Tablet Slides
Printable Cards
(Inc. blank cards for you to add your own questions)
E-Book
Healthy Conversations Create Healthier Relationships
A portion of revenue from our work supports organisations helping people affected by domestic and family violence. We currently donate to 1800RESPECT, Australia’s national support service.
• Around 1 in 3 marriages in Australia end in divorce.
• Poor communication is one of the most common contributors to relationship breakdown.
• Domestic and family violence affects millions of people worldwide.
But research also shows something hopeful.
Relationship studies show that couples who learn to have honest conversations are far more likely to build long-lasting, healthy relationships.
Sometimes the most important step isn’t fixing everything.
It’s simply asking the question you’ve been avoiding.
✅ Bonus 1: Access a private Telegram group
A quiet space for people exploring the same questions.
You’re welcome to share reflections, insights, or simply observe the conversations others are having. Sometimes hearing how others navigate these topics can bring unexpected clarity.
✅ Bonus 2: Optional private conversations
If you feel you’d benefit from talking things through, we offer optional 1:1 sessions.
These aren’t about fixing your relationship or telling you what to do.
They’re simply a space to explore the questions that may be difficult to ask alone.
✅ Bonus 3: Submit your questions anonymously
Some questions feel easier to ask when they’re anonymous.
You can submit a question you’re struggling with and we may explore it in future podcast episodes or discussions.
Often the questions we think are uniquely ours turn out to be the ones many people are quietly asking.
Without this
❌ Some questions stay unspoken.
• Conversations get avoided because they feel too difficult to start.
• Assumptions quietly replace honest communication.
• Small misunderstandings slowly grow into bigger frustrations.
• You may talk around important topics, but never really through them.
With this
✅ You create space for honest conversations.
• You have simple questions that help start meaningful discussions.
• Difficult topics become easier to approach calmly.
• You gain clarity about what you both actually want.
• Conversations shift from tension or avoidance to curiosity and understanding.
FAQ — Let’s Keep This Simple
I’m not sure where to start. Will this really help?
That’s exactly why this guide exists.
You don’t have to know the “right” questions — the guide simply helps you begin the conversations many couples avoid.
Do we need to agree on everything?
Not at all. The goal isn’t agreement.
The goal is understanding each other more clearly.
What if these questions bring up difficult topics?
That can happen — and it’s often where the most growth comes from.
The guide also introduces a simple framework for having these conversations with calm and respect.
Can this replace therapy or professional support?
No. This guide isn’t therapy or professional advice.
It’s simply a starting point for conversations that may help you decide whether further support would be helpful.
How to Get Started ✨
There’s no pressure to answer everything. Even one honest conversation can change a relationship.
You don’t need to do everything at once.
This guide is designed to be explored slowly, at your own pace.
📥 Download instantly
As soon as you purchase, your files are ready to access.
📖 Explore the questions
You can read through them individually, or use them together with your partner.
💬 Start a conversation
Pick one question that resonates and simply begin there.
There’s no perfect way to do it — the important thing is creating the space to talk.
Why We Created This
For years Jenny and I have had conversations like these between ourselves.
The kind people often think about, but rarely say out loud.
Through my work with clients in business and leadership, I noticed something surprising.
People who could solve complex professional problems often struggled to ask simple, honest questions in their relationships.
Questions about expectations.
About the future.
About whether they were truly aligned.
So I shared five questions in a short video.
The response was overwhelming.
Thousands of people recognised themselves in those questions.
This guide grew from that moment.
Not as advice.
Just as a starting point for better conversations.
50 Questions Couples Avoid
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